Emotional wellness and Self-Development: Who are you?
Do you feel like you have accomplished most if not all of your occupational, academic, financial and business goals? Are you at the top of your game? For some people, they have achieved pretty much all of their goals within their careers, their families, and maybe even within their social circles. They have built the life they always dreamed of, but something is missing….
What is that? Could it be emotional wellness? Could it be this sense of self or purpose? In my years of working with people, I have seen the most successful surgeon, the politician, the inventor, the attorney, the therapist, the list goes on. I have seen these successful people come into my office feeling melancholy, disenchanted but then guilty for not understanding these feelings. They worry, do I have depression, maybe its anxiety? Why am I not happy when I am exactly where I want to be sooner than I every thought?
First off, happiness is a relative term. No one is happy all of the time. And sometimes, particularly with social media and the internet happiness has become a manufactured thought, a filtered picture, basically an illusion. Traveling the world is great – but is that what you want to do or that what the world is telling you to do? I have found that it’s a need to find a deeper sense of self, fight of the thoughts of happiness related to what you see in others or what you thought happiness was 20 years ago for you. Our goals over our lifetime will change. Who we are will develop, but we must nurture our self, our true self.
Lets start here. Who are you? What kind of answers did you come up with and are you happy with your answer? I want to help people find that content and happy place by first discovering themselves by developing the “self.” Success in every other part of life doesn’t mean emotional success. Emotional success is characterized by being happy with you, striving for continued success in every facet of your life while living within the value system that is important to you. Emotional well being is feeling comfortable with yourself, knowing what you need from others and what you can give. It is having boundaries. It is understanding what brings you joy, what to do when you experience discomfort or suffering. It is relishing the time after you overcome any trials or tribulations you experience. It is having balance between the success you have experienced in the external aspects of life and the inner you. So, look at that. Maybe with sometime of therapist, coach, partner, or friend? Who are you? I know I continue to work on myself, on my relationships, on my family, on my career. But most importantly I have to remember that my emotional wellness can not be pushed to the side or I will not be the best me for me or anyone around me.